The Guest House: By Rumi
This BEING human is a guest house, every morning a new
arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
Some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
Who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture,
Still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
Meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes,
Because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
The house-wrecking sorrows and the paralyzing depressions. .
. those house guests are very loud and very persistent down here in La Esperanza. They stand on your doorstep, screaming and
banging until you let them in. When I
was here 8 weeks ago, every day was a struggle.
I cried often, swore always, and lived under Eyeore’s rain cloud. In preparing to come back, I worked my
ponpones off to be in a centered, zen state.
And I’m so amazed at how much a little perspective and a few deep
breaths has kept my feet planted firmly on the ground. There is still the same tornado happening
around me – kids are malnourished, gunshots ring out (in fact, a gunshot came
through the school building during one night, and went through two walls), all
of the kids and teachers and volunteers demand nearly every minute of my every
day, and the program has a continually growing to-do list. But, within all that, I still have carved out
a few minutes of sacred time, where I meditate and sing and dance and practice
a little gratitude. Of course I still
get sad, and frustrated, and soul achy. My stomach hurts when I see the gunshot hole
in the wall. But I know that those fear emotions won’t consume me. I know that I can let them in to my guest
house, feel the emotion deep in my bones, and then I take a deep breath and then
do a silly dance. Or I run outside and
play jump rope, or find a hug, or ask my brother for a joke.
My English team right now consists of 1 teacher who has been
here for a year, 2 that have been here for 3 months, and 2 that are brand
new. I was planning on jumping back in
with both feet to work on curriculum and behavior management tips and tricks
and other teachery stuff I assumed the teachers needed (this is all their first
time teaching). But what I found, was an
INTENSE need for connection, creativity, and vulnerability. One of my new teachers is terrified being
here – of the community and the classroom. Another teacher is angry and
exhausted. One teacher has not connected
well with the others, and another was feeling so many emotions she was
crumbling inside. There was no feeling of community among my group of teachers,
but lots of feelings of frustration, confusion, anxiety, depression and discontent. So, I threw my plans out the window, and have
been knee deep in creative facilitation research.
In the last two weeks, we have become poets, artists and
actors. We have played and laughed and
danced and cried together. We have
pushed through the fear of judgment and comparison, and shared incredibly
vulnerable things about ourselves and our experiences here. We have found new respect for each other
through the sharing process of our creativity.
We have connected with each other, through understanding that we each
experience the intense emotional dichotomy of life here - “It’s not just me!”
is such a liberating realization. We still have a long way to go. Every week I have planned a different
creative workshop – each one asking us to step out of our comfort zones, be
creative, and be vulnerable. We will
practice self-compassion, meditation, gratitude and a drum circle.
I have absolutely fallen in love with this process! I am so grateful that I have the honest
empathy to facilitate this for these women.
I have been in each of their shoes before. I have experienced the unbearable rage at the
injustices here, the deep depression that kept me glued to the couch, the soul
aches of missing home, the heart wrenching sorrow of hearing and seeing death,
the confusion, disbelief, horror and despair.
This time around, thanks to my
conscious decision to stay grounded, and the open doors of my guest house, I am
able to help them in the middle of their tornado. We’ve only had three workshops so far, but they have blown me away. When people are
courageous enough to be vulnerable, it gives me piel de gallina and tears in my
eyes. It gives me such respect for that
person, makes me notice their radiating beauty, and reminds me of our shared humanity.
My collage from one of our workshops, showing the dichotomy of emotions